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Developing thinking skills

The way we think about situations has a lot to do with how we react.  That is why thinking skills play a big part in our ability to regulate our emotions and behaviour. Here’s an example:

Two year-old Crystal has a tantrum at the store. 
Her mother Katrina thinks to herself,
"This is embarrassing. 
Everyone will think I’m a terrible mother. 
And it’s all her father’s fault for always giving in to her. 
He spoils her rotten."

These thoughts can make Katrina feel embarrassed about the situation and angry at her partner.  She grits her teeth, grabs her daughter’s hand, and pulls her out of the store.  Crystal cries even louder and everyone stares as they go by.  Both Katrina and her daughter are very upset.  Katrina’s anger grows and she can’t wait to yell at her partner for spoiling Crystal.

We all jump to conclusions about why difficult situations happen in our lives.  When we look at what caused the situation, we often blame ourselves or someone else.  Blaming gets in the way of responding effectively.

Instead of jumping to conclusions, it’s useful to follow three easy steps.  These steps help us respond to stressful situations effectively instead of simply reacting.

Read about how you can respond more effectively and teach your child thinking skills .
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